tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post4831193834266604507..comments2023-09-05T16:22:15.151+02:00Comments on Martinis For Two: DecompressingDiane Mandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00059365308496711788noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-35016326266612110022008-08-01T10:22:00.000+02:002008-08-01T10:22:00.000+02:00Diane! For 10 years I lived on another continent t...Diane! For 10 years I lived on another continent than my family. It was nice, liberating, lonely and it made me grow into the person I am today. However: when I moved back, I had to start from where I left off 10 years earlier when I decided to work through issues/questions/functions etc with my family. So what I’m saying is: the distance is good for personal growth, but you can never move away from problems – it just puts them on hold for the time being. It might make you strong enough so that you finally don’t feel the need for your parents approval or whatever it might be you resent. <BR/><BR/>So glad you like Germany! My fiancé works there. Lots of nice stuff to see and do. And close to so many other countries. I’m happy for you!Åsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06499955506439869169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-41332566590708647082008-08-01T05:57:00.000+02:002008-08-01T05:57:00.000+02:00my mom isn't greek but we seem to have the same ty...my mom isn't greek but we seem to have the same type of problems, and that's just from talking to her over the phone.Dan-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12734702852120937927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-80330253500145344852008-08-01T02:49:00.000+02:002008-08-01T02:49:00.000+02:00My mom, being the Greek mother that she is, is alw...My mom, being the Greek mother that she is, is always worried that if I am not doing everything exactly like she would, will make me a total failure. So I hear you and I'm saying, don't worry! You know you are ok, and you know that your life is good, and just ignore all the yucky stuff and thank your lucky stars you live so far away and not down the street! (Like me) Big Hug, now go decompress! Go read a good book for a few days!Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00833895204803423100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-56102449251310902862008-07-31T19:22:00.000+02:002008-07-31T19:22:00.000+02:00I can totally relate... my mother and I are out of...I can totally relate... my mother and I are out of funk right now, due to her doing and I'm really at the point where I need to distance myself from her for a while in order to link the wound (that she made) and at the same time find a bit of forgiveness to give her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-2519486592529378182008-07-31T18:31:00.000+02:002008-07-31T18:31:00.000+02:00For two decades I said that my mom could live here...For two decades I said that my mom could live here on the farm and not make me cranky, but things change. My father passed away two years ago and the changes in family dynamics have been pretty dramatic. I no longer feel like mom could live here, my relationship with my youngest sister has become increasingly distant - we all live within a twenty mile radius...yikes. I keep trying to be zen about all of it but more often than not snarky digs tip me right over, that's when I indulge in the dream of moving to Italy. ;)Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10167980498731684457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-795069857109880722008-07-31T16:54:00.000+02:002008-07-31T16:54:00.000+02:00It's a funny reminder that the grass is not always...It's a funny reminder that the grass is not always greener. My honey and I live about 3 hours away by plane from my family and about 3 hours by plane in a diff direction from his family, and I miss them terribly (particularly mine of course). I long for them to come visit and it usually doesn't seem long enough. But then I talk to my friends with families nearby and I'm reminded of the headaches. People wanting more of your time than you sometimes have or want to give. And even when both people's families are close together in a city that is less than 4 or 5 hours away by car. Then each side is wanting equal time and you're spread so thin. I think if my family was ever here to visit long enough, I'd have the same reaction you did. It's a reminder that the grass may seem greener, but that's not always the case.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-76039639463632161412008-07-31T15:30:00.000+02:002008-07-31T15:30:00.000+02:00Yes, I know exactly what you mean....And Headbang8...Yes, I know exactly what you mean....And Headbang8 has an excellent point.jadedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326141253899975708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-77808795010837542202008-07-31T15:04:00.000+02:002008-07-31T15:04:00.000+02:00Oh hon, I hear ya. I can't be around my grandma o...Oh hon, I hear ya. I can't be around my grandma or my mom for more than an afternoon, perhaps two, if they're on their good behavior. Since we'll be off to the Heimatland on Saturday, my brain has already worked itself into a frenzy trying to anticipate all the jabs that my grandma will make on my expanded body and the fact that I'm actually married and whatnot ... still, they're family, and they do deserve your love. But nobody said that you'll have to stay overly close to them to love them.Sonja Streuber, PMP(R), SSBBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382967097578165008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-8115805479535296742008-07-31T14:35:00.000+02:002008-07-31T14:35:00.000+02:00no pressure from this family member :) EVER! - Cno pressure from this family member :) EVER! - CAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-54375979266566278572008-07-31T13:27:00.000+02:002008-07-31T13:27:00.000+02:00I have another 2 weeks with my MIL ..........I soo...I have another 2 weeks with my MIL ..........I soooooooo know what you mean!!!!!!Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03037350189933791568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-90531086139001286652008-07-31T13:10:00.000+02:002008-07-31T13:10:00.000+02:00"I won’t use my blog as a platform to be disrespec..."I won’t use my blog as a platform to be disrespectful or complain..."<BR/><BR/>Well, there's your solution to the blogging crisis. Your blog is public and identifiable; it makes it hard to be totally frank. <BR/><BR/>Start an anonymous blog and your subject matter doubles. <BR/><BR/>And it's a lot more fun when you're able to put the boot in!The Honourable Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05234119524600114890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-29957243413949399732008-07-31T13:01:00.000+02:002008-07-31T13:01:00.000+02:00I didn't have this with my mom, but I've had it in...I didn't have this with my mom, but I've had it in the past with other visitors...sometimes visitors serve as a great reminder as to how wonderful our everyday lives are :)Michelle | Bleeding Espressohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13578703393987896737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12508552.post-75129436782744320042008-07-31T12:35:00.000+02:002008-07-31T12:35:00.000+02:00I know exactly what you mean.Glad you are enjoying...I know exactly what you mean.<BR/><BR/>Glad you are enjoying yourself.<BR/><BR/>How is the German coming?running42khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11801790773966257216noreply@blogger.com