7.03.2007

I did a bad thing

Forgive me, bloggers, for I have sinned... I think.

I’ve been working out with Chris, a personal trainer, for almost a year. During this time, I’ve come to believe he would make a good companion for my friend Jules. Without either’s knowledge, I’ve tried to create opportunity for the two to meet, but it’s never worked out. So, during my workout yesterday I decided take the direct approach with Chris.

“Are you seeing anyone?” I asked.

Chris looked a little puzzled as he knew I was a happily married woman.

“These days only my 4-year old daughter,” he replied. “Why?”

“Well, I have this friend, and I think you guys would hit it off.” I said sheepishly.

Chris smiled, and gave me the opportunity to give him the ten second sound bite: she’s smart, athletic, and has her act together. Because he didn’t seem to mind the conversation, I decided to take it a step further by sending him a picture of Jules along with her e-mail address.

Was this wrong? And if so, on a scale of 1 to 10, just how wrong was it?

These days, people go to all sorts of length to meet other people, such as speed dating, online dating, and social networking sites. Really and in the grand scheme of things, is a more personal referral so unusual? Besides, Chris might not do anything with the information, and Jules would be none the wiser unless I fess up? Speaking of which, should I?

But then again, what if Chris does e-mail her and they go out on a D-A-T-E? And suppose things sailed smoothly for at time, only to end in shipwreck? Would I be to blame then?

Ooh, I’m beginning to think I ought not to have put my girlfriend out there and, even worse, that no matter what happens, Jules is going to kill me. Yikes.

12 comments:

Jamy said...

What you did wasn't bad at all. However, if you did it without Jules' permission, you may have overstepped slightly. I'd confess to her immediately and then hope for the best.

Last thing, if they do get together, you are not entitled to details! That's the rule most matchmakers break. ;)

Monica said...

I agree with Jamy.. Fess up to Jules ASAP. And then stay out of it. The worse thing is to be the go-between. Thank God I have good friends (with big think skin) because when it comes to dating, they are terrible matchmakers (you would think that these people know me better than anyone, but they have try to match me up and they always make a mess of it.)

But good luck to Jules!

You can tell you are happily married, since you want to match up everyone now right??? fess up! :)

Anonymous said...

I would say it's about a 3 on 1-10. You definitely have to tell Jules. How creepy would it be for her to get some random email from a guy she's never met? Tell her about him and maybe try again to go out with both of them and Max or another small group where they can meet on their own.

If you can't get them to meet, don't keep asking him about whether he's emailed her.

kenju said...

Jamy is right. I think you should have asked her permission to send him a pic/email. Now, you need to confess to her and take the consequences. She may not mind at all.

AmyD said...

I think this makes you a good friend, since it seems you know them both well enough to think they might be a good match. However, being blind-sided by a random person's email ("Hi, got your picture and email address from your friend...") would NOT be cool, so I think you better give Jules a head's up, or you might be treating her to an "I'm SOOO sorry!!!" dinner. ;o)

Just a trumpet player said...

Can I be your friend ? You do the fixing and I'll provide the Martinis...

Carmi said...

Your heart was in the right place: that's all that matters in the end.

I wish I had friends who are as considerate as you. Wait a sec, I do. But the world always needs more!

egan said...

She needs to know you offered her up, that's my thinking. This being said, it's not horrible you did this. I would grade it a 7 of ten (ten being, don't pull that shit again). It would be really weird to be in her shoes and get an email from a random dude. Plus and email address is a rather personal tidbit to give out, like a cell phone number.

running42k said...

I heard on the radio last week that this is how most people meet, introduced by friends.

If it doesn't go well, expect your workouts to get a lot harder.

Diane Mandy said...

I took your advice and fessed up...she wasn't angry at all! Whew! Now let's see if Chris calls her...

Anonymous said...

Glad the fessing up went well but maybe you should give her Chris's email (and pic if you have it). Why does the ball have to be in his court? Let Jules get in touch with him if she's so inclined.

Diane Mandy said...

Great idea, Anonymous. I think I will!