4.22.2008

The rest of the story

My constant supporter, Max, came with me for my initial visit with Dr. Sych. He was understandably concerned about the fibroid and wondered how this would factor in to our chances to conceive.

While it took us 45 minutes to get in to see the doctor, my appointment only lasted 15 minutes. Max remained in the waiting room while I was examined. When I got through the appointment and emerged so quickly, he could only think the news was not good.

“That was quick. What happened? What did the doctor say?” he asked in earshot of no fewer than 10 women who were also waiting to see the doctor.

“Not here. Let’s talk when we get outside.” I said quickly.

It only took a few minutes to get to the car, but to a poor, worried Max, it seemed like forever.

“Now, tell me what happened,” he pleaded as soon as we stepped outside the office door.

Still reeling from the surprising news, I could do nothing more than hand Max the picture of the ultrasound Dr. Sych had given me as a a memento of my time in the stirrups.

Understandably, Max looked confused.

“What’s this?” he asked.

“I’ve been told it’s a baby.” I replied with just a hint of emotion.

“A WHAT?!?” Max was both shocked and overwhelmed; tears began welling up in his eyes.

It took days for either of us to really believe we were pregnant. Saturday, Doctor Sych called to say blood tests confirmed the results of the ultrasound.

Despite our excitement, Max and I are trying to remain cautious during these early weeks. The truth is I don’t feel pregnant—no morning sickness, no real exhaustion, and only a slight tenderness in my breasts. I’ve also read some sobering statistics. One in three pregnancies end in miscarriage when the mother is over 40. Moreover, the results of my blood tests did a reveal a slightly low level of progesterone. Although it’s not a huge concern according to the doctor, he decided to call me back Monday to give me supplemental medication to raise the levels.

“It’s good you are pregnant,” Dr. Sych said with a grin. “I’m happy, you're happy. Now we’ll just have to pray about it.”

Even though I’m not a religious person, I took comfort in his words and understood them in the spirit in which they were intended. Dr. Sych would be taking no chances with my pregnancy, which is considered high risk because of age and not the fibroid. In fact, Dr. Sych has asked me to come back again this Friday for a follow-up —my third appointment in eight days.

So until then, Max and I will wait…

and pray.

28 comments:

Jean Ann said...

Well, congratulations are definitely in order then!! I can't imagine what you must be feeling...fear, anxiety, elation...just remember to breathe. Ultimately, you have only a small amount of control over what happens with your pregnancy, you know? So, try to relax and enjoy the ride...it will make you and your little one much less stressed...my thoughts are with you...

Charlotte said...

Thank you for finishing the story! I would have felt cheated otherwise. And I welled up when Max did.

Guess he's going to be the one having Martinis from now on ... though German doctors are not against the odd glass of wine!

catherinette said...

I'm totally keeping my fingers crossed for you 2. :)

AmyD said...

I'm praying right along with you...this is meant to be. I just know it. :o) CONGRATS again!!!

Sara said...

Oh Diane- what a wonderful surprise!! If there's anything I've learned, it's that a positive attitude can do wonders. I will keep you, Max and your little bean in my thoughts. Congratulations!

Bluepaintred said...

You are definitely not the only pones praying Diane, We are all doing it too!

In eight months I look forward to a pictures of a wee chubby baby!

Anonymous said...

Yeah! Odds are very much on your side. Why didn't Max go in with you? He has to get over any of that squeamishness to be a real partner in this stuff. It's kind of gross but it's the miracle of life! Shall keep that little bundle o' cells, soon to be a bundle o' joy, in my prayers. You guys deserve this good news!

June said...

OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD!!!

Oh Diane....I am crying big crocodile tears right now!!!!

Mimi said...

Congratulations! Take care of yourself and stay healthy.

Shelly said...

More watery eyes and the shivers when you wrote about Max...this is so very exciting. It sounds like you have a lovely doctor too, I really like what he said.

Me said...

I am SO thinking you the most positive healthy baby vibes! :)

mrsmogul said...

Keeping everything crossed for you and good luck!!

Jamy said...

Diane--tons of FIRST pregnancies, at ANY age end in miscarriage. So, if possible, don't get attached yet...and if it doesn't work out this time, you will have another chance. It's good news no matter what!

However, I am also praying that this pregnancy will be successful. :)

traveler one said...

Look at all the good energy that's on your side! I'm sending all the good vibes I can gather to you and the tiny life that has come to you!

Sarah said...

And so will I. :)

Andrea said...

Lot's of positive baby vibes and heartfelt prayers coming your way for you, Max and this new little miracle.

Charlotte said...

Wow, I'm excited for you and all the cool medical care you receive. My medical group won't even allow me to see an ob/gyn before week 8. And you know what they say: Fuck the statistics.

Sizzle said...

I will pray too.

Dianne said...

I'll wait along with you and Max and I too will pray.

It's wonderful the way you describe your feelings - I want good things for you.

zerodoll said...

i'm thinking baby thoughts for you!

Rachel said...

This has got to be the most overwhelming piece of news I've ever heard of someone receiving. Overwhelming and beautiful.

I will be waiting and praying with you.

kenju said...

I am happy for you and max, and I hope everything goes well the whole nine months. I will pray for you.

running42k said...

I will pray as well.

Senior Advisor said...

I'm so glad you decided to share your news with us...all the "positive energy" that's being showered on you, Max, and the baby has to be a good thing.

Hoping all is and continues to be well chica!

Caffienated Cowgirl said...

Congratulations...and you are in my prayers :)

karey m. said...

oh, i am hoping this goes down as the greatest love story to a baby ever written...

i'll say a prayer every time i hear call-to-prayer from the mosque down the street {5 times a day!}...and every time i hear the church bells from the church at the other end of our street {twice a day!}...

utenzi said...

Congratulations to both of you, Diane. That's wonderful news.

Fabi Yvette said...

Diane...where do I start? I feel like I know you, really know you and we've never even met. I'm not a religious person either, but trust when I say that my hubby and I will be praying for you, max and the baby. It has brought tears to my eyes and I'm overwhelmed with emotions. I'm so happy for you, my friend!!!!